You care about your family and do whatever you can to show it. Everyone has what they need and then some. They’re fed, bathed, and clothed, the house is clean, homework is done, and dinner is on the table by 8 pm. In the morning, everyone has breakfast and is off to their destination with a home cooked, hand-prepared lunch, and a personalized love note in each lunch bag. The kids have the latest gadgets, and your husband doesn’t have to lift a finger when he comes home. Okay, so not every mom does this (I surely don’t), but even when you’re tired and don’t feel like it, you take care of what your family needs without thinking twice about it. But do you do that for yourself? Do you care about yourself enough to care of yourself?
When we care about ourselves, we are better able to take care of ourselves, and in turn, take better care of everyone else. Can you think of a time when you did something for yourself without struggling to get it done? For example, I have always been overweight, but could never find the motivation to stay on a weight loss plan for more than 2 weeks. I’d get extra excited about getting started but always found something else that was more important. I’d get too busy to go to the gym or make a healthy meal. I’d always find some external factor that I felt was out of my control and would find any excuse to not focus on my health, instead of seeing my worth and putting my health first.
I always put myself and my needs at the bottom of my to-do list, which we all know is the land of forgotten tasks. Being healthy doesn’t come easy for many people and requires much more than just motivation to do. With the convenience of fast food at every corner, the complexity of the bazillion workout plans that are all “the latest craze”, and the DVR and couch calling your name, it’s easy to fall off the wagon and not feel like getting back on, especially if you don’t think you’re worth it. But the people who stick with it have one simple advantage over us: they love themselves. They don’t have extra hours in their day, they don’t always have more money, and they don’t always have a happier life. No, what they do have is a love for themselves and an understanding of their value and worth. They want to take care of their bodies and minds. They want to fuel their bodies with good food and positive energy because they know they deserve it.
Self-love is the catalyst for self-care. You should want to be healthy not because you hate something about yourself but because you love you – flaws and all. And when you take care of yourself, you’re more available for other and set a great example for your family.
Start thinking about what you can do for yourself each week to treat yourself. What self-care practices can be included in your weekly routine? How can you incorporate exercise into your weekly routine?